You talk About Sexuality..../Tu hablas Sobre Sexualidad...
With your preschool children, or your young children?
Today I bring this up, not because I'm watching the secret life ... but because on Saturday I was talking to my boss, and my boss told me that mothers with children in 5th grade, find their childrens texting things about sex , questions that should be answered by parents or teachers, not for their friends, that have the same or less information than they, or worse, answered by the internet. My boss told me that these mothers are concerned about the kind of language that their children use with their friends, or that girls are harassing children to be "boyfriends" ... excuse me but at that age I was still playing with Barbies, but of couse I was curious about sex and I knew some things, because my mother always talked openly about it to me and my sisters, (though not a pedagogical way), the fact is that at that age I was curious about sex but did not have the most interest to practice or have a boyfriend, I thought that it was older and married people, so I was still playing with dolls and talking to my friends about other things, but today thanks to technology children acquire information not necessarily true of internet, friends etc. ...Today in my way house, I ran into two girls pregnant, one should have about 15 years and the other as 12, Yes 12, my eyes did not believe what they saw, and I did not want to believe, in what world are we living in, when 12 years girls become pregnant or already have sex? ... the truth in a world where even talking about sex is taboo in homes, and in a world where children can access any computer and get the information, where sexuality in school is toch just as a topic in biology or health class, where teachers are afraid to talk about sex with their students, where parents do not want to touch the issue because " my children are not thinking about that right now", because let me tell you they are wrong, since the day they discover their genitals are already thinking in sex
Throughout my college career I have seen two subjects/class about sexuality and have attended three lectures on sexuality, thanks to these materials and lectures today I can deal with a group of children and honestly answer their questions about sex, not regardless of age, must always speak the truth, starting with calling his genitals by real names, let's face it we put most nicknames to genitals of children because we feel ashamed as they are called, but why? The penis is called a penis and that the child should know and the girl has a vulva and that does not change, what's wrong with those names? The children are learning bout their bodies and how they learn, that their hand is called hand, must learn that his penis called penis, her vulva is called that way and not another ... let's start there, start calling the genitals of children as are, not give them nicknames.
You may say that "my 3 years don't shows any interest in learning about sexuality", but I guess if you have a boy, sometime you fund him touching his penis , and the same with the girl, which is normal, do not say anything, not the ugly look, do not judge them, that's a game for tem and uses this moment to talk to them, start asking What do you feel when you touch your penis / vulva? He can say "nothing" or " I like" or X, and you can take this the time to ask, do you want to know something about your private parts? If he asked a question you answer quite frankly, there is nothing to be ashamed of, if he says nothing and leave him alone like if nothing happened, but I can assure they will always have questions for you ...
If we talk about sex since they are small we can prevent sexual abuse, saying "these are your private parts and no one can touch or see if you do not want, and if someone tries to do it tell a trusted adult that is close, You own your body "to repeat this" mantra "we are preventing child sexual abuse not only, but children that are not pressured by society, friends or boyfriends to have sex when they are not ready, we are creating a a human being who can say No because they are masters of their body, and no one can take that away.
I could go into here all day and write all that every parent should know, but I can not, and please if you are going through a situation with your child about sexuality and does not know how to handle it, feel free to write to my e Maydelinhcbb @ hotmail.com, I hope to help you and give you the tools that you needs to deal with this topic. Let's talk
Today I bring this up, not because I'm watching the secret life ... but because on Saturday I was talking to my boss, and my boss told me that mothers with children in 5th grade, find their childrens texting things about sex , questions that should be answered by parents or teachers, not for their friends, that have the same or less information than they, or worse, answered by the internet. My boss told me that these mothers are concerned about the kind of language that their children use with their friends, or that girls are harassing children to be "boyfriends" ... excuse me but at that age I was still playing with Barbies, but of couse I was curious about sex and I knew some things, because my mother always talked openly about it to me and my sisters, (though not a pedagogical way), the fact is that at that age I was curious about sex but did not have the most interest to practice or have a boyfriend, I thought that it was older and married people, so I was still playing with dolls and talking to my friends about other things, but today thanks to technology children acquire information not necessarily true of internet, friends etc. ...Today in my way house, I ran into two girls pregnant, one should have about 15 years and the other as 12, Yes 12, my eyes did not believe what they saw, and I did not want to believe, in what world are we living in, when 12 years girls become pregnant or already have sex? ... the truth in a world where even talking about sex is taboo in homes, and in a world where children can access any computer and get the information, where sexuality in school is toch just as a topic in biology or health class, where teachers are afraid to talk about sex with their students, where parents do not want to touch the issue because " my children are not thinking about that right now", because let me tell you they are wrong, since the day they discover their genitals are already thinking in sex
Throughout my college career I have seen two subjects/class about sexuality and have attended three lectures on sexuality, thanks to these materials and lectures today I can deal with a group of children and honestly answer their questions about sex, not regardless of age, must always speak the truth, starting with calling his genitals by real names, let's face it we put most nicknames to genitals of children because we feel ashamed as they are called, but why? The penis is called a penis and that the child should know and the girl has a vulva and that does not change, what's wrong with those names? The children are learning bout their bodies and how they learn, that their hand is called hand, must learn that his penis called penis, her vulva is called that way and not another ... let's start there, start calling the genitals of children as are, not give them nicknames.
You may say that "my 3 years don't shows any interest in learning about sexuality", but I guess if you have a boy, sometime you fund him touching his penis , and the same with the girl, which is normal, do not say anything, not the ugly look, do not judge them, that's a game for tem and uses this moment to talk to them, start asking What do you feel when you touch your penis / vulva? He can say "nothing" or " I like" or X, and you can take this the time to ask, do you want to know something about your private parts? If he asked a question you answer quite frankly, there is nothing to be ashamed of, if he says nothing and leave him alone like if nothing happened, but I can assure they will always have questions for you ...
If we talk about sex since they are small we can prevent sexual abuse, saying "these are your private parts and no one can touch or see if you do not want, and if someone tries to do it tell a trusted adult that is close, You own your body "to repeat this" mantra "we are preventing child sexual abuse not only, but children that are not pressured by society, friends or boyfriends to have sex when they are not ready, we are creating a a human being who can say No because they are masters of their body, and no one can take that away.
I could go into here all day and write all that every parent should know, but I can not, and please if you are going through a situation with your child about sexuality and does not know how to handle it, feel free to write to my e Maydelinhcbb @ hotmail.com, I hope to help you and give you the tools that you needs to deal with this topic. Let's talk
Con tus hijos de preescolar, o con tus hijos pequeños?.
Hoy traigo esto a colación, no porque estoy viendo the
secret life… sino porque ayer sábado estaba hablando con mi jefa, o bueno mi
jefa me comento que las madres con niños en 5to grado, se escriben a través del
chat cosas relacionadas con el sexo, preguntas que deberían ser respondidas por
padres o maestros, no por sus amigos, que tienen la misma o menos información que
ellos, o peor respondidas por el internet.
Mi jefa me contaba que esas madres están
preocupadas por la clase de lenguaje que sus hijos usan con sus amigos, o que
las niñas están acosando a los niños para ser “novios”… Me disculpan pero a esa
edad yo todavía jugaba con barbies, aunque claro si conocía del sexo, ya que mi
madre siempre hablo abiertamente del tema conmigo y con mis hermanas, (aunque
no una manera pedagógica), el caso es que yo a esa edad si tenía curiosidad por
el sexo, pero no tenía ni el más mínimo interés de practicarlo o tener novio, pensaba
que eso era de mayores y de gente casada, por lo tanto yo seguía jugando con
muñecas, y hablaba con mis amigas de otras cosas, pero hoy en día gracias a la tecnología
los niños adquieren información no necesariamente verdadera del internet de sus
amigos etc…
Hoy mientras venía a mi casa me topé con dos niñas
embarazadas, una debería tener como 15 años y la otra como 12, si 12, mis ojos
no creían lo que veían, y yo no lo quería creer, ¿en que mundo estamos viviendo
cuando niñas de 12 años salen embarazadas o ya practican sexo?... la verdad en
un mundo donde todavía hablar de sexo es tabú en las casas, y en un mundo donde
los niños pueden accesar a cualquier computadora y obtener la información,
donde en la escuela la sexualidad se ve en una clase de biología o higiene,
donde los maestros tienen miedo de hablar con sus alumnos sobre sexo , donde
los padres no quieren tocar el tema porque “los niños no están pensando en eso
ahorita”, pues déjenme decirles que se equivocan, desde el dia que ellos
descubren sus genitales ya están pensando en sexo.
A lo largo de mi carrera universitaria he visto 2 materias
acerca sexualidad y he asistido a las 3 charlas sobre sexualidad, gracias a
esas materias y charlas hoy en día me puedo enfrentar a un grupo de niños y
responder honestamente sus preguntas acerca del sexo, no importa la edad,
siempre hay que hablar con la verdad, empezando por llamar a los genitales por
su verdaderos nombres, aceptémoslo la mayoría le ponemos sobrenombres a los
genitales de los niños porque nos da pena como se llaman ¿pero porque? El pene
se llama pene y eso el niño lo debe saber y la niña tiene una vulva y eso no
cambia, ¿Qué hay de malo con esos nombres? Los niños están aprendiendo sobre su cuerpo y así
como aprenden que su mano se llama mano deben aprender que su pene se llama
pene, que su vulva se llama de esa manera y no de otra… empecemos por ahí, empecemos
llamando las partes genitales de los niños como son, no les demos sobrenombres.
Ustedes dirán que mi hijo de 3 años no muestra interés por
saber sobre sexualidad, pero yo me imagino que si tienen un niño lo abran encontrado
tocándose el pene, y lo mismo con la niña, cosa que es normal, no les digan nada,
no los miren feo, no los juzguen porque para ellos eso es un juego y solo aprovechen ese
momento para hablar con ellos, empiecen preguntando ¿Qué sientes cuando te
tocas el pene/vulva? Él le puede decir “nada” o “me gusta” o equis, y ustedes
pueden aprovechar ese momento para preguntarle ¿quieres saber algo sobre tus
partes íntimas? Si él les hace una pregunta ustedes responde con total
sinceridad, no hay nada de qué avergonzarse, si él no les dice nada lo dejan
tranquilo y como si nada fuera pasado, pero creo que les puedo asegurar que siempre
van a tener preguntas para ustedes…
Si hablamos de sexo desde que están pequeños podemos
prevenir abusos sexuales, diciéndoles “estas son tus partes íntimas y NADIE las
puede tocar o mirar si tu no quiere, y si alguien intenta hacerlo se lo dicen a
un adulto de confianza que este cerca, TU ERES DUEÑO DE TU CUERPO” al repetirle
este “mantra” al niño estaremos previniendo no solo abuso sexual, sino que los
niños no se sientan presionados por la sociedad, amigos o novios, para tener
relaciones sexuales cuando ellos no están listos, estamos creando a un ser
humano que puede decir que NO porque ellos son dueños de su cuerpo, y nadie les
puede quitar eso.
Yo podría extenderme aquí y escribir todo lo que se, y que
todo padre debería saber, pero no puedo, y por favor si usted esta pasando una situación
con su hijo sobre sexualidad y no sabe como manejarla, siéntase libre de
escribirme a mi correo Maydelinhcbb@hotmail.com,
espero poder ayudarle y darle las herramientas que necesita para afrontar la situación
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